I sense little remorse/humility from H, and knowing that he is an accomplished and habitual liar makes me uncomfortable to say the least.
Hon, men are proud creatures, my H wanted us to just move on and not to talk about the S, the A, ow, because he was ashamed he messed up so badly and just wanted it out of his mind. I remember on new year's we had a little blow up and I told him how I expected him to hug me and to console me when I was having thoughts about the A. He explained me that whenever he thinks of those times and anything related to it he recoils and shuts his brain out of those memories, and that that was why he couldn't conmiserate. The ow made a fool of himself, he made a fool of himself those months and he didn't want to remember them anymore.
My H is also a habitual liar, and it has been hard. But, ALWAYS give your H the benefit of the doubt, begin with that, build your trust by being on his side. It takes time to give them your full trust again, it totallly understandble.
As for personality differences, most problems are not meant to be solved, they are to be accepted, and by that I mean you are not always going to be able to have your H understand/agree w/you and vice versa. You learn to accept your differences and respect them.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
