Hi Chicki,

I was finally able to read through your stich, wow I thought I had drama in my life.

Can't give you much more advice than what has been given. I would have to say do not go with the restraining oeder against OW. That is just going to cause more headaches for you.

With respect to your children around OW, I do not blame you for being upset. It is one thing for your H , it is a whole other ballgame when it involves your children.

An idea if you need to go out for you time, take the kids to a babysitter or your parents if it is an option. Don't give him the opportunity to take them to see her. If he wants to take them out, make it crystal clear in a clam fashion that he is not to take your children anywhere near her. If he does, there will be consequences. Don't be specific and don't say it in a nasty fashion, but you need to set this boundry for your own sanity.

I know that is not your typical "DB" tatics, but I can see how this is very stressful for you.

Take some time for you while he is away. Relax and do some things for you.

and if you really want him out, just change the locks on the house while he is away ;\) (ok just kidding there..hope it made you smile a little though)

Keep your chin up.

Sigh