If SHE believes he's betrayed her by having EA's then THAT is the issue they need to deal with before anything else can be rebuilt.
Wrong! I see no reason for Chrome to accept blame for something that did not happen. If his W wants to believe it was an EA, that is her business, but I do not think Chrome should just stand by and let his W accuse him of doing something he did not do. Just because she FEELS a certain way does not mean those feelings are valid. Maybe to her, but not to him. For Chrome to accept responsibility for something he did not do is wrong. He needs to stand up for himself on this one.
Furthermore, if nothing happened, as LFL claims, then what is there is be ashamed of? Is he not allowed to talk to women? Should he check in with his W each before he can speak with a woman? Should he wear a tracking locator around his ankle?
Chrome’s W can dream up any sort of conspiracy she likes. That is her way of escape. Placating those fantasies will only justify her false fears. What she needs to do is step into the real world, take assertive steps to interact with her H, and stop playing victim. Otherwise, every time Chrome talks to a woman, his W will suspect something is going on. That is her paranoia to overcome, not Chrome’s.
Personally I find the comments from those of you on here who staunchly say he didn't have one, which dismisses other's opinions, quite condescending.
Why is this condescending? Why should I placate you and admit to something I think is untrue? Why do I have a responsibility to tip toe around your feelings when I think you have made a false accusation? If you don’t want to be challenged, then don’t make mountains out of molehills. What is your purpose anyway? Are you trying to help Chrome’s marriage or make a point about cheating men? It seems to me that what you feel is condescending is that I do not address the pain that YOU feel on behalf of Chrome’s wife. What does that have to do with me or this thread?
