H and I talked about the Madonna/Whore complex today. I told him I had provided the C with a copy of the article I also gave him. He was okay with that (good I say).

We also explored the possibility that this complex might fit his profile, he also agreed and said "it pretty much fits the bill doesn't it" - I was THRILLED and, to tell you the truth, I think for the very first time in at least 5 or more years, I can truly say I feel a like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I have always known that my H loved me deeply, and I feel it even more now. It's like we finally have an answer to all this mess. However, I am still going through the anxiety of tomorrow and his trip to the city where OW lives. He has tried to reassure me that he is strong and doesn't have the desire to contact her but that's him being here. What will it be like when he is right there, within minutes from her house for 7-8 hours?

Can you give me any insightful advice? Anyone? COG - GEL - are you guys out there?????


Heywyre

M - 57
H - 65
1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02
2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06
together 21 years
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Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)