I am feeling a little beat up about my remarks to CIAZ. I will just asking questions, I wasn't saying that her behavior or way of communicating was a good one. Fear does make us do things much differently than we normally would.

I have heard the same BS from my H as you all have heard from your wives. It is that total BS. If they really felt that way 3 years, 5 years, or 10 yesrs ago, they would have let us know, either passively or in words. In my case, this is just part of the MLC rewriting of history.

I do have to say that I was guilty in the past of not coming right out with what I wanted to know because I was afraid of what H's reaction would be. So I kind of danced around it. I will never make that mistake again. Sometimes, my dance came from not really knowing what I was unhappy about. That will change too because I have finally learned how to look inside myself and find the source of my true feelings.

Good luck to both of you, I wish I could wave a magic wand and teach everyone to communicate openly and honestly with the people we care most about.

Everything happens for a reason, maybe Dad needs to find that it isn't better out there, he needs to realize how good he had it here. Maybe he will find God and that is the most important thing when he finds Him he will know he is supposed to come home.