Thank u Jeff, how long have u been working at this? I agree i feel like a YO Yo of emotions but hide it from her quite well. she has started going to church where i live now which is hour from her house she was attending the church in her town that we both went too but our pastor at are old church in Va where we used to live is now the pastor at a church in the town i live that her parents attend the past 4 weeks she has been coming here which is hour away. thanks again