YoYo, You handled the phone call very well. If he wanted to continue the conversation, he could have initiated one.
Did you want to speak further? Just make sure you keep it light.
I think we have to experiment with the degree of connection vs. distance that is right for our situations. The goal is to attract them back into the R, and eventually into Piecing mode.
The distance-connection ratio you've been maintaining has been working for you. He clearly wants to maintain a connection to you.
You're wondering about joining father and daughter to help her move-out of her dorm. Can you maintain the right distance-connection ratio during the trip? Can you be positive and enjoy yourself? This would be a test of your level of detachment.
If you can do it, then go. If an entire trip would be too emotional to handle, and you would end-up acting-out, then join in to the extent you would be comfortable.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
