It's a commonly discussed idea on this board that we all have different limits and different boundaries within the context of M-what one finds unacceptable another will easily dismiss. Discussing those differences shouldn't be taken so very personally unless people have something they feel guilty about. In which case they should address why they feel guilty and not just demand that everyone stop speaking about it.
Just for the record, I don't care if people comment on it or not. Everyone has the right to their opinion and can voice it. The danger in all of this for me, is that I don't really have a lot of guilt feelings regarding the EA behavior. I would have felt very guilty in the past but once the bomb dropped with him leaving so suddenly, it's like a door was opened that I can no longer shut. I'm sure Nop would refer to that as entitlement. And yes! I feel entitled to have a happy, exciting, passionnate M! Why should I live the rest of my life in a half-fulfilling M? It's easy for some people to say, "then just get out of it and go one with your life". I have problems justifying that when I have young children involved and there is no abuse in my M. Again, going back to my desire to have my cake and eat it too. I want my M and family and I also want a passionnate R. I am quite certain the R with my H will never meet my expectations. So my only choice is to change the expectations or get out. Both of those decisions are almost impossible for me to comprehend right now.
