My Marriage still feels hopeless

[SuperDad]

EMT,
Why would you pay off her car? I forget is your W working? If so, she can pay it off. If not, make payments or trade it in on a cheaper car that is free and clear! My W is driving a 9 year old car. I just had to get it fixed as she is not working and takes the kids to school, etc. Otherwise, I will not spend 1 red cent on getting her a new car!

BTW, have you seen a L to find out your rights and obligations in your state. If your W is not working, it is generally in your best interest to get her to start. I have been supporting my W for 10 years, much to her luxury for the past 2 years. I am pretty sure that this will be a huge negative for me if we get a D, because she can claim that she needs time to get retrained, etc.

Start planning for the worst, even while hoping for the best!

SD.