Cobra, I see. I have no opinion on what Chrome should disclose to his wife or not disclose except that he needs to be true to his heart and until he is, dishonesty is not a good foundation for a M. Our discussion about EAs is, in my opinion, completely separate from what Chrome should or should not disclose to Mrs Chrome.
Corri, As for your post in defense of Chrome and LFL...I'm just not seeing the judgmental comments that you refer to that make you so inclined to defend. People are debating over whether or not it was an affair, but I don't see that as being 'judgmental'. It's a commonly discussed idea on this board that we all have different limits and different boundaries within the context of M-what one finds unacceptable another will easily dismiss. Discussing those differences shouldn't be taken so very personally unless people have something they feel guilty about. In which case they should address why they feel guilty and not just demand that everyone stop speaking about it.
I'm sorry. I personally don't believe that what LFL and Chrome had going was anything NEAR an EA... that skirted the edges and said... nope, can't go there. Jesus.
Corri, your tone is entirely condescending. You berate everyone who's expressed an opinion by accusing us of 'badgering to death' and then you go on to express your opinion again. I just don't see the need to get so defensive on their behalf, as I don't see where the boards are being offensive like you claim. Let's get something straight. I thought Chrome and LFL termed their own situation an EA and expressed wrongdoing, I honestly didn't think there was anything to debate about. If that wasn't the case, then I wouldn't want any part of 'judging' their actions. Only their hearts can tell them whether or not their behavior was within the bounds of their vows and only their hearts can tell them whether or not they should disclose to their partners. There isn't anything judgmental there I don't think-I for one was operating under the idea that they had already expressed wrongdoing and that idea was the starting point for all of my comments. For crying out loud, we don't even know what their behavior WAS, so I don't see how we can term it an EA, I honestly thought they did that themselves. If that's not the case, then no one here can possibly have an opinion on something they know nothing about.
Should we always hold their feet to the flames, or should we offer empathy and support through their struggles, and help them find their personal strength?
From my standpoint, holding their feet to the fire was not the point of any of this!! Chrome and LFL were not the point of any of this! It was Chrome's WIFE that was the point, she made the comments and all of this was an attempt to see where she may have been coming from with her comments.
I personally think you're missing the point behind all the discussion and are focusing on things that you see as judgmental.
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