Okay - with the kids. What have you asked him specifically to do? Could you ask him to take on school work with one or to help all of them with a particular subject? Keep the request direct, specific and in a manageable dose.
Also can you set up ONE evening a week for him to play ball with your son to practice for bball?
not appreciating what i do at home
Have you ever told him that you do not feel appreciated? Not in an angry way or in passing. But actually sit down when you AND HE have some time and just bring up the subject that while you love being a SAHM in some ways you also do not feel appreciated for all the work you do.
By the way do you tell him you appreciate him for the work he does in his career?
I did enjoy kissing...when we were young I guess.
How is he different than when you were young and how is he the same?
I don't know if he has any issues except that he wished I would initiate sex
It might be interesting to find out. Also how does he feel about his job? While he may appreciate you being a SAHM, being the main wage earner is quite a bit of stress especially if you start to not enjoy your work or to feel like you are having problems at work. His habit of not doing much at home makes me wonder if he is feeling a bit depressed.
We need to sit down and go over our laundry lists so to speak.
I would not do the "laundry list" thing. Too overwhelming and depressing for both of you. I would open up to him about not feeling appreciated. And if you start down the path about your marriage, then each of you would bring up 1 or 2 concerns. Then you can discuss some small ways to address those concerns. Does that make sense?
Also, as ridiculous and impossible as it may sound can you find something (it can be small) to compliment or thank your H about every day? This is as much for you as it is for him. It will be a good reminder that he does have good qualities and it will be a nice pick-me-up for him.
It sounds like your exercise routine is reasonable and you are keeping healthy. That is great.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
