There is some really self defeating behaviour going on in Infidelity at the moment.
Girlfriend, you need to sit quitely and let the anger pass. Calling OW, thinking about police intervention, etc etc, simply puts you in a whirlwind of drama that you dont' need to be in.
Go back to the DB basics. Detach. Get a life. Develop your positive mental attitude.
DBing is just as effective if you are through with your marriage or standing for it. It gives you the skills to create a safe place for you and your children to get through this terrible time in your life.
Get out of the drama and into a calm place. Calling OW gives her power over you that she doesn't deserve. Pretend she doesn't exist.
Give yourself a treat tonight. After you put the children to bed, run a nice big bubble bath, light some candles, take a glass of wine with you or some yummy chocolate. Look after yourself and let your H and his mistress blow in the wind.
Take care. Your in my prayers.
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
