No wonder why Chrome does not want to reply. Christ in heaven. I give LFL mounds of credit for showing up like she has.
I'm sorry. I personally don't believe that what LFL and Chrome had going was anything NEAR an EA... that skirted the edges and said... nope, can't go there. Jesus.
EVERYONE is vulnerable to attraction. EVERYONE. It feels good. And if anyone has the balls to admit it, we've all flirted with it... at some point or another. And you may even take right up to the line. Cross it a few timses. But it does not MEAN you are committted to crossing the line.
This is where integrity comes into play, and how we LEARN it. I'm glad for anyone that has the internal compass to right their ship immediately. Some have to play with fire a bit.
And like I have said before... infidelity, on this board, sometimes, can be treated like a witch hunt. Only because of personal experience, and the horrid things we have all experienced. But c'mon people. We have ALL played with fire. And let's give us that have, a bit of a break. We are humans, learning. Some of us will take it way beyond what it should be. Some go the opposite direction, like LDs, and completely shut off any sexual experience. It is no worse than the HD who takes it to the hilt. It is but one version of two ends of a specutrum.
One goes the way of... abstinence. One goes to the verge of sexual experience.
And on the other end... you have two people who played with fire. Should we always hold their feet to the flames, or should we offer empathy and support through their struggles, and help them find their personal strength?
The person who ventures down the road of no return... cannot forever live in the abyss of sin. You pay for a crime... but to rehash it over, and over again... if you continue to pay... there is NO WAY OUT of that tunnel. The guilt of the experience will never set you free... especially if it is rehashed to infinitium.
We have two people here who have come clean. Give them a flippin' break people. Knock it off. Forgive. They are both, here, learning, as we all are. It is very difficult. I don't care what one person considers an affair, or what one person doesn't.
We are all here to learn. To accept. To forgive and to be forgiven.
If we cannot forgive ourselves and forgive others... without the perosnal experinece of an S.O.... why the he!! are we here?
Our collective job is to move beyond what we are... and to support each other in our collective process... to help one another, as best we can... in our own ways... regardless of HOW we choose to get there.
