Well maybe look ahead to the trip in LV and decide some things that you and H would want to do.
That would be an excellent idea if he agreed to come, but he's not.
Two guys I worked with say that their wives want to go out to dinner on Friday night when they get home. They would LOVE to just stay at home but would usually go out because they understood that their wives had been HOME for the whole week.
See, but those guys GO. They go because they see their wives' points of view too....my H seems to only see his own. I am empathetic to a point...it's just that there has to be some compromise, ya know? Just some give and take. H and I rarely spend time alone together so I think there's quite a bit of room for give on his part. He values family time over all else and since our lives are based around our kids, I think I've given quite a bit more on the matter than he has. It's not even about agreeing to do something he doesn't want to do, although once in a while that would be nice too just because it would tell me he loves me enough to put my needs above his own. It's about him not valuing time with me enough to make it a priority....I feel taken for granted and unimportant. So, even if he regularly agreed to time alone with me, if his heart wasn't in it, it wouldn't be enough. My H is sort of narrow in his view....like if I want to do something my way and he wants to do it his way for instance. He'll insist on his way saying that I'm so willing to ignore what he wants and do things my way-he honestly doesn't see that the other side of what I want is what he wants and that I could say the same about him. He just doesn't get it. Recently, because H is out of town, I had to pick out the faucets for our bathroom remodel project. I got faucets with the porcelain handles b/c I thought it would look nice. H had a fit, PORCELAIN HANDLES?! Why would you do that? Do I have to make a checklist of every possible thing you might think of and then make sure I address each one to assure that my opinion is considered?! His reaction was ridiculous. So, gets what? I have to send the handles back and get plain chrome. It's silly. The guy doing the work on the bathrooms said, 'he won't even notice'. Yeah right! My H has an opinion on EVERYthing. Seriously. And not to honor his opinion, from his perspective, is to say 'f you I'm doing what I want'. He doesn't get it that I have to get what I want SOMEtimes and it doesn't mean that I'm saying f you....it just means that whatever it is happens to be important to me and I really want to have it my way.
"Happiness is a butterfly, which, when pursued, is always just beyond your grasp, but which, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you."
