I don't know your story, so I don't have any great advice for you, but I just had to comment on something you said.
You wrote: <<<I guess my question is, my husband seems to be operating out of a place of unrealistic perceptions and expectations (like thinking we're going to still be together at various family functions; requesting to come over a few times a week to help with our daughter's bedtime routine; and assuming he'll be dropping by to fix things around the house).>>>
My WAH was under the same impression as well. He wanted out of the marriage but he still wanted to come around and do stuff for me. My C said that was his way of still controlling some part of me.
I'm sure DB works when you're living together as a couple, but after my WAH and I split, it was hard trying to apply the techniques when he was no longer living with me. I do have to say that DB helped me prepare to live by myself, but as far as helping with my situation, it didn't. Of course, each situation is different. It may help you.
Take care. All my best, alamogirl
Me - 48 (at time of 1st bomb) H - 43 married - 16 Jul 94 no children 1st bomb - (said he was leaving) - 3 Jun 06 2nd bomb (said he was ready to file) - 10 Nov 06 H filed divorce - 17 Nov 06 Divorce finalized - 20 Jul 07
