In my opinion, so what, it's not like we are anal planners or anything where we have all these ideas of things to do and then my family comes along and has to have everything their way. If they suggest going somewhere and we go, H feels like he didn't have a say in the matter.

Well maybe look ahead to the trip in LV and decide some things that you and H would want to do. What would be ONE thing that you think your H would definitely like to do out there? Maybe plan a surprise day trip or evening together. TELL your sister ahead of time that you and H have some plans and make sure you stick to them.

But to someone who somewhat regularly has to go out of town for weeks at a time, maybe it truly is difficult to think about scheduling voluntary trips away from home and kids.

Yes It is!! I am a consultant traveling every week. People ask me why I don't just stay over more weekends. They do not get that I just want to get out of a hotel and be in a HOME. Plus I have spoken with many other consultants and they feel the exact same way. Two guys I worked with say that their wives want to go out to dinner on Friday night when they get home. They would LOVE to just stay at home but would usually go out because they understood that their wives had been HOME for the whole week. Anyway... my point would be that being empathetic and letting your H know that you understand it is inconvenient, a pain in the azz, and not his idea of a perfect weekend however you would really appreciate the time with him. Take the IF out and tell him that you are GOING to spend the rest of your life together and things ARE going to get better.


Good Luck!!



But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus