Newbie..need clarity..I feel the fat lady has sung

[NikB]

Just catching up... I agree that at least FOR NOW you should get away from him or require that he get away from you. That doesn't mean you're giving up hope of it ever working, but also agree you need to see some very long term changes (from a very safe distance).

And IF you think he won't get violent, I think it's ok to tell him that too. Tell him you appreciate that he loves you and wants to change, and that you'll need to see it's for real, you need to see actions and not just words.

I wish I could offer more.. this is all I can think of right now! But first and foremost stay safe and take care of you and your kids.