Its over...she filed part 2

[OldFool]

Here ya' go: The fat lady is warming up....2. But there's not much going on for me.

Haven't seen anything of kikisum for a while. I'm assuming that's a good thing and that she's focusing her energy on her R and M. I hope she drops in at some point and gives us an update. I suspect many folks, once they're really involved in piecing, often forget to come back and let the rest of us know that DBing can work and has in their sitch.

I should have mentioned this before, but my WAW was in denial for quite some time (several months) before appearing to come out of it. She was always perky, happy, bubbly, etc. whenever we had any kind of communication (in person or not). Eventually she couldn't keep it up and the facade has now cracked and she's no longer the bubbly I-couldn't-care-less person she was in the early days. That doesn't mean everything is OK (it's not), but it does mean she is at least starting to face reality. You may find the same...though your WAW is obviously not the same as mine so your mileage may vary.

[MyWifeHasGoneCra]

Hey, SR. That last update there sounded fairly upbeat. You stated it all pretty matter-of-factly like anyone who is well detached should.

Yeah. My wife seems fairly comfortable around me too. The last time I was over at her house she propped her feet up on my legs and I thought WTH? She still has OM around and still no R talk or D talk. The way she is so friendly actually makes me uncomfortable now.

If she's having trouble sleeping there's definitely something going on there. But, who knows what? Only her.

Good to hear from you.

I wonder about Kiki too. I'm sure we'll hear from her eventually. Hopefully to say that she and H are getting along well.

[ImprovedRomeo]

Hey MWHGC, Yes overall I'm doing better but I have times when I can't stop reminiscing about STBXW.

Glad you stopped by, how are things with you lately?

I emailed kiki yesterday, hopefully she's doing well.

[MyWifeHasGoneCra]

I do alright unless I see her. That's still too much for me to bear. Especially with the way she's been acting lately. A little odd. It's on the last couple of posts of my thread.

[OldFool]

SR, haven't heard from you in a while. You doin' OK? Did you ever find out what's up with kiki?

[kikisum]

Hi SR and all-
thanks for thinking of me; it's funny, you guys all must have sensed that the time was right for me to come back here. i've started a new thread and H seems more hell bent than ever on getting a divorce. like everyone elses spouses, he is bubbly and light. enjoying the feel of his new band-aid i suppose. he never cut off ties completely with OW.

so SR is that it? is your divorce final or do you have to go to court? i must say, you sound really good. strong. i'm proud of you. i hope to get to that point soon. she WILL regret her decision. that is inevitable. i don't know a single divorced person who doesn't regret it, unless there is abuse involved.

check in, let us know how you are doing. sorry i never e-mailed you back, i truly meant to. things were just so crazy. the big lesson i learned is that unless they are really ready to come back, it's not worth it. it's much harder than living alone.

[S.T. _I Made It!]

romeo, is this your thread? I saw you on luvles and couldn't help but to stop by after hearing your sitch. my M was saved as well so I feel for you going thru a second bomb.

have you read For Men Only? I'm going out of town, but maybe sometime I will be able to catch up on you.

[ImprovedRomeo]

Hi ST, thanks for stopping by. My latest thread is actually the one in my signature. Yes the second bomb (no third) is horrible but I seem to be doing a lot better than before.

I've never heard of For Men Only...I'll look it up. Congrats on getting back together, make sure you guys work on the core issues unlike us sweeping them under the rug.