Not sure if you are still on tonight or if he has called yet. my 2 cents worth agrees with Holly here. I have a weird version of sanity in dealing with my H. Mine responds to kindness and attention. I have been told over and over to shut him out and don't answer the phone and be cold and no responsive. I can't do that it is not my nature any more and I feel that I am sending the wrong signal.
Now I do let the machine pick up if I am in a horrible mood and pain and I might say something to trigger him or I might whine about things in the house. But I usually talk to him and if he calls it is because he wants to talk. I never call him.
so hopefully you can stay focused and find the right feeling in your gut as to what you feel is the right thing to do.
I have learned from the DB info and all the people I read last summer to respond and not react and it worked every time. Now I seem to be so messed up I can't make a sentence come out right.
hope it all goes well and you get a good nights sleep. HB2
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
