Sorry to butt in here, but I'm off to the flippin' mechanic. I did check the gas cap btw, but the manual says "take to dealer" for its' suggested repair...thanks.....
Okay, here is my "quickie" take on your Romantic stuff and your h. Stop setting him up for failure. Just plan the damn dates yourself so he doesn't have to keep mind reading with you. And clearly, negative feedback is NOT working and its' unpleasant as well. Stop being negative. I KNOW it's hard when they're goofy or mean and you can't be "negative." The thing is, positive reinforcement is statistically more effective than negative. Period. I mean, can you imagine how he must feel when he is getting "reviewed" by his busiest critic. To me, it'd feel as if my h was saying "be sexier" and no matter how many ideas I'd come up with, I'd always feel a little miserable that I was "commanded" to do something that should have come naturally...and that's assuming h liked my attempts/actions!!
So, you have to applaud loudly for the 1% of good your h /says/does. I "get" that this is hard, believe me. Plan a date and when it is over, thank him for his company and how much you liked seeing the show/or doing the activity with him, or praise his insight, depth, humor or just kind compassionate companionship. Thank Him profusely and keep planning these dates, until if and when he initiates it. Let him CHOOSE to be romantic and not have to "perform on command", okay?
Just my take on it and no, I have not read all your posts. good luck, j-
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