Yep, I also remember well the day I got D papers in the mail .. very unexpected b/c H had begun calling me again and things were looking very positive. Anyway, I signed for the papers and my hand was shaking so badly I could barely sign my name.
I have discovered that when I'm under stress, all my DB lessons fly out the window .. so what did I do that day? I immediately called H on the phone and asked what the heck was going on! (A tactic not recommended on this board). H stuttered and stammered and said he would explain it all later. His "explanation" was that he told his lawyer to drop the D but the papers had already been mailed by L's secretary (probably not true, but that was his story and he stuck to it). The D action was eventually dropped.
Anyway, some memories are embedded in your memory bank forever, and the day I signed for those D papers is one of them, as I'm sure you'll never forget getting your property settlement papers. You're just never prepared, regardless.
HB, I too wonder if the OW is still in the picture. She was bragging to people about "her" new house. Once she reads the court documents, she may realize that the house is half mine, and if the court makes H sell it, the profits will be half mine as well. Sometimes it takes seeing the written word to make a stubborn brain see the light.
