Well thats not the way I was speaking of finding out if they "did" or didn't. I do have Herpes and have for years. She and I do have, and have had unprotected sex for years. There is a very good possibility that she has it and has never had an outbreak as this is very common.I did mention to her that if they "did" she could very well have given it to him(she hates condoms) and her response was that she didn't have it because surely she was tested when we had our second child 2 years ago and I informed her that it took a particular test which was not part of pre-natal testing {not the answer I wanted to hear}. She may have actually given it to him if they did. Kinda funny {sorry the hateful part of me.} but not....certainly not fair to his new wife of 7 months if he takes it home to her..should I tell him? I have his cell # When I asked him how many times they had sex via a text message he said they never got physical at all and it was all talk, he also apologized for his actions. I told him I fogive him and her and have prayed for both our marriages {also that they almost destroyed ours and our family} and that he should remeber the vows that he said to his wife just a short time ago and take them serious.
She must have seen the gears turning in my head last night and asked what was wrong in a very caring way.. just told her that it will haunt me for a while what has happened and that I do forgive her but it's not soo easy to forget and that I love her more than anything and kissed her lightly on the forehead. Said I just wasn't sure that she was honest about there being no PA and she once again affirmed that there was none. I said ok and dropped it. Hope I am doing the right things.... I sent her a sweet poem via e-mail today and also we have talked on the phone a lot today. She told me last night as I undressed that I looked "hot", I have been hitting the gym real hard and tanning, dressing trendy ect. Familyguy
