Need another opinion, is my W OM, friend or more?

[andyv]

I have thought about alot of things regarding move outs etc etc.

But I love seeing my DD every day, I love living in our new house and I still enjoy the interaction with my W. If nothing else, when the D day does come, W has no reason to try to do me over with anything.

As we are separated, I need to give my W her freedom and space (I have always been jealous and controlling throughout our marriage). I would like to think that I have changed a great deal over the last few months.

So what if she is going out, possibly chasing after OM or looking at other possibilites. That is beyond my control.

I am also out and about, mainly with friends etc

She needs to get this stuff out of her system, without pressure from me. I have a feeling that 17 years of feeling one way, compared to several months of feeling another will hit her pretty hard one day.

And this OM doesn't bother me, we are like chalk and cheese. My BIL saw him at a party and he is nothing like what I thought he would be like, puny, not good looking etc. I thought being a Kick Boxing coach he would be huge etc.

I think she probably enjoys his company because he was emotionally there when I wasn't. From what I have heard he seems to be pretty decent as well which is one of the qualities my W found attractive.