You ask when the penny was going to drop for me...well it has dropped.
I had a C session today that made that penny drop. This is the first time I had mentioned the sexual abuse that my exW had gone through and I also mentioned a comment that she made a few weeks back. "I have changed, I am now a much more closed person. I don't share my life with everybody"
This was a major red flag for my C.
He said there is nothing you can do or say to help her. She has closed off all intimatecy. She can never be a whole person unless she seeks help. She is seekling attention and affection from dating, the men she dates will never know who she really is because she will not expose herself.
He called her a taker, she takes whatever she can get to satisfy her urge for attention. He warned me NOT to let her get to close if she comes around again. She was in control the first time, I need to be in control next time.
She is broke, it didn't matter if she M me or someone else this was going to happen regardless.
It feels like a major weight off my shoulder. I can now move on knowing I did what any decent guy would do in a R.
He said she is a taker, a user and vindictive. But she really doesn't know she is like this.
Its funny how someimes you can't see the trees through the forest.
