Changing locks is good idea for your safety... remember that! for in some states if you change the locks on a house that has his name on the deed he can make a stink about it... would not put it past him right now.
but you need to feel safe and you need to do this for who knows what he will do if he starts to crash. If he shows up and is not calm do not let him in. Make sure that he is not in a state of rage. I have read where they when the pressure gets too much they lose it.
The D papers I got the settlement agreement in the mail on a Sat. in Nov. and the walk to the house which is 150 ft felt like a million miles long. I shook for hrs and I had seen these same papers 3 mon earlier when he thought he wanted to D the second time. There is nothing that can prepare you for the unexpected appearance of papers. I know that thinking of it consumes me some times.
Remember to take care of you. Relax tonight do something for you. If you are stressed when he calls you are not going to deal with this as well as if you have calmed down and have a plan of what to say in your mind. You might want to write some things down since you know he is going to call or show up.
stay strong show him how strong you are and how calm and caring you are acting he might realize what he is dealing with now. because.........
You never know this is going to be a crisis for him and he might just lose it and fall apart and realize he screwed up big time. Then remember this too.... OW? still there? she is going to have to deal with him and his reaction to this and if she has not had to do this before... oh... stress on that fantasyland relationship. Reality is going to hit that R big time now. The fun is going to become real life drama..she may just show her true colors if she thinks she is going to lose where she is living.
Isn't this what makes the A fall apart sometimes? Keep the faith that he will realize when she can't give him the emotional support he needs that he still loves you.
Me the totally negative person according to H has learned to be positive... things happen for a reason sometimes.......
H
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
