You have received VERY GOOD advice from NOP - that is what you need to do. Forget about trying to shock her - it won't work. Not the way she is feeling right now
Set your cards out on the table - straight forward. Like NOP said, use the past-tense when talking about your problem. Be confident - its just another business deal (that's the way you have to think of it as - that will keep you calmer)
Good luck
Heywyre
M - 57 H - 65 1st A-bomb - Nov 27/02 2nd A-bomb - Dec 13/06 together 21 years *************************** Insanity is doing something over and over and expecting different results (Albert Einstein)
