Too bad if she's mad about it, you have a right to know the balance in that account. All you are doing is protecting your assets. SHE is the one insiting she wants to move on, wants a divorce...it would be foolish of you not to know what's in her account so you can make sure there is an equitable division of assets. If she's angry about it, let her stew. If she asks about it, simply tell her calmly why you needed to know. DON'T try to smooth this over for her.
