I appreciate everyones input, but i went ahead and gave her my letter.
I felt like I had to do it. This situation has been going on for about 6-8 months, with the PA about 3 weeks. I have done a good job with not arguing, remaining civil, etc, but I hadn't really done a good job detaching - and the more i read about what I needed to do, i realized I also needed to make it 100% clear on what i was feeling - before i went on with my life.
I needed to talk to her one more time, and maybe remind her of the good times. Remind her that the in-love feeling always dies, and we could work on finding something better together.
I knew she wouldn't respond favorably, but she didn't respond unfavorably, i don't think its going to speed up any thing on her end. She remembers the good times, but the feelings associated with those memories are covered up by all the neglect and hurt. I didn't expect her to through her arms around me and tell me she's sorry. But i am glad I got to get that off my chest, and maybe one day she'll remember, hopefully when that happens I will still be in a place where I'll want to try again.
I feel like the point of the letter wasn't to change her mind, but to release me.
