I can totally understand, Sol. I don't like the person that my H is at times right now either but I hold onto the hope that the best is yet to come. If I look back over the past 4 months, I have dealt with some total crap, STD scare from OW when I was still clueless, H calling me horrible names, lies, deceipt. I visualize this possessed, evil person just spewing out venom. The best day for me was when H realized that he needed professional help for HIMSELF! Your wife is going to hit bottom and I hope that she will get herself some help.
Hang in there. Take off by yourself if you need to be alone.
