Well it's back to the cave time for my H. He told me last night that he had been doing lots of thinking. I asked about what and he said everything. He said just give me space. I said I'm not trying to bug you. He said I don't mind if you call. He said I don't want to offend you by telling you that I need space and time to think. I told him I wasn't offended.
My patience is waning.
Yoyo, Detachment is hard! Unconditional love is hard! Patience is hard! Distance in a M is hard! Having low expectations is hard! Being married to an imperfect person is hard!
I understand what your saying about the patience piece. Are you wasting your time? What if you don't get the outcome you want, after months of waiting? How long should you wait?
I'm there with you experiencing all the same issues and emotions that a LBS does. We work hard at practicing DB and life skills. We make changes in our lives for the better. We read books looking for perspective and inspiration. Yet, the difficult emotions keep creeping-up on us--fear, resentment, confusion, anger. We're only human.
I think you've been getting better at giving him space, and not pursuing. It certainly takes time and practice to adapt to these situations.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
