I am a very logical kind of person, but not as bad as Spock. I don' t see the world in various shades of gray (thus why women baffle me). To me if things are still gray, you just have not divided the problem fine enough to get to black and white.
Deida does talk about pursueing our goals even if it causes hardship on the family. I know there are other careers out there that might actually be my purpose, but to get there would rwquire more schooling and would cause great financial hardship on the whole family, and I can't do that to them.
What I was trying to get to with the whole fish thing is that their are many fish out there that can't respond. Women lose their desire for MANY reasons, and MOST of the reasons have nothing to do with the fisherman and how he fishes. So if I make myself more attractive, this won't do a whole lot for a women whose problems are phsycial or with herself. I already KNOW that my wife has a lot of physical issues to contend with.
