H asked me this morning what I would like to do tomorrow. Would I like to go to dinner and a movie? Exactly the question I was dreading. Hesitantly, I asked him if there was something a little more special we could do. He said the kids are going to dinner and prom. That is special. I said, "It's special for them. They get to dress up and go to a nice restaurant by themselves then go dancing. Kids don't get to go to nice restaurants by themselves very often. Still looking worried, he asked what I had in mind. Even more hesitantly, "Something romantic." I didn't want to use that word, but I couldn't think of what else to say. As he was going out the door to work, he said, I don't know what I can do to make it romantic. I said, "You have to create romance." He said, "We'll have to think about this," and left.
I was worried that he would stress over how to make me happy on this. So I browsed the internet for some simple romance ideas. I found one about making a reservation and asking the waiter to bring a bouquet of flowers when they bring the main course. Another idea was a night time picnic in a park and cuddling under the stars. One more was one person preparing a candlelight dinner while the other makes a love nest in the bedroom so there is still an element of surprise for both. I sent a link to the web site so he could look for more if he didn't like those. I also suggested just going out to dinner or an early movie so we could come home and enjoy having the house to ourselves. I suggested that I could make a special dessert. I asked him to please not stress over this. Let's not loose the good feelings we've had. I will do whatever you want to.
I've probably messed things up royal. I should have followed your advice and agreed to his dinner and movie and just been glad for what we've had so far. It is probably too soon to expect more romance than that right now. I am so worried about how he is taking this.
I haven't found any posts in these forums about men who don't know how to be romantic. Are there any out there? Has anyone figured out how to overcome this?
By the way, as I've been reading other posts throughout the forums, I have found several that say their previous thread locked up. Why does a thread lock up? What happens when it locks up?
