I know I've never posted to you before, but Ian grabbed my attention on another thread.
Ahhhh.... The ultimate 2x4. The one we see coming straight at us only to stare at the ground thinking it will go away at some point and never reach us.
You are not stupid nor are you naive. You are merely human. One who becomes complacent with their own thoughts. We try to avoid pain at all costs and by you wishing. hoping and thinking that a PA never happened was doing just that.
You my friend have now reached the point where things change for you. This is where you can actually start to focus on what Sol wants and needs.
Take time like Ian said. You will surely have good days and bad days. Days where you want her and days where you don't. Only time will tell where you are really at.
If I can offer only one bit of advice it is this.
Redirect your anger. I speak from experience. It will come out even in a little conversation about mac and cheese, somehow and someway you will vomit your anger like Linda Blair in the exorcist. If you can keep that in check everything will work out just like it is supposed to.
Breathe my friend.
M-35 going on 15 D-8 S- 3 yrs ex-CL(w)- 30
D over one year
I may not have gone where I intended to go, but I think I have ended up where I needed to be. Douglas Adams "Just Be"