Hum de dum...........

[Holly06]

Wow, RCR, thank you.

I see what you are saying and there is alot to be said for this.

My recent bout of sadness was really not related to TJ, but I felt I was living the reality of what I was dreading when TJ left.
I am very comfortable with the progress that TJ has made. I think in these terms:
My marriage/relationship with TJ has a dual road to take.
1. The postive relationship with TJ that I have fostered.
2. The ending of his R with OW(this is a benchmark) and resolving his MLC.
These 2 things need to work in tandum. RIght now our R has made so much progress, that his MLC "adventure" needs to catch up.

So be still.

This is a growing time for me. I feel it. I see it. I am happy most of the time.

I do have alot of support, and I take care of me.

But when you have 2-3 days without distractions, I live alone, no family in town, it gets to you.

So I reach out to people.
I love the connections that have made on these boards.
They are special.
It is just another way of working on me.
TJ accused me of being anti social.
So this is something I am a little sensitive about.

I want to say 1 more thing about this process that I firmly believe.

You do 90% of the work for 10% of the results.
Then 90% of the results will be 10% of the efforts.

I know the work I am doing on myself, and my R with TJ are working. I am grateful for what I see and feel from him.
It is really more than I expected at this time.
I am prepared for another year of this at least.
So being still feels good.

Thanks for your care. It means alot to me.

Holly