We're both on Lexapro. I'm also taking Wellbutrin and propranoall. (probably not the correct spelling.)
Prescribed drugs are good.
I'm not sure if she still has problems from her first marriage. I know that he lost interest in her and went outside to find someone else. She's always said it was his fault. She may still have issues, I don't know.
I really don't think I can get her in the sack at this point, if I could it would probably save the marriage. But I'm having a hard time getting her to even sit on the same sofa. She's got her guard up.
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Another 180 that would really shock her, is if I didn't wear my wedding ring. I've never had it off my hands in 13 years. I don't really like the idea, but it would shock her.
I worry that some of these 180's might make her think that I am ready for divorce and encourage her to move forward.
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When she told me she was leaving a few weeks ago. I blew up. Yelled, stormed around the house, left the house and drove down the road. (Not something I do. I rarely ever get mad.) Then I came back and told her that I wasn't leaving. If she wanted out she'd have to be the one that left. That I was not leaving our marriage.
After 30 minutes she came in and said that we'd continue working on it. When we got in bed she said that she really wanted sex, but it was "that time of the month" and she couldn't do it. She also said that when I left she thought that she had lost me forever.
When we got up in the morning, she was all weepy and left for work. That evening I called her cell about 6:30-7:00 and she said that she was going to stay with a friend.
I think some of her friends/co-workers have been "supportive" and told her that she didn't need to live like this any more. One of her friends is single and man hungry and can't find one. The other one is married but her husband lives 4.5 hours away and they only see each other every other weekend for porn and hot sex.
