ld wife (contd) working on ssm -h

[fearless]

well the book can't even be applied because of other issues that exist.

Runner,

A few quick questions that I do not remember seeing the answers to:

1) What are the "other issues?"
2) What attracted you to your husband in the first place?
3) Did you ever enjoy kissing him?
4) Are there any qualities he has right now that you appreciate?
5) What is his level of awareness of your frustration?
6) Does he have any issues with you that you know of?


By the way I completely understand your need for running. I probably ran 40-50 miles a week when me XH and I separated for the second time. I was definitely using it as an anti depressant. My counselor who is a runner also said there are known AD benefits to long distance running for 60 minutes or longer. However you definitely need to watch your health. I do not remember you answering Ellie's (KML) question about your menstruating cycles. Also running every day may also be a problem. You need at LEAST one rest day a week.

It cannot and will not happen over night but from everything I have read I am sure things can improve for you and your H.