Look on the one positive side of this This may be the thing that makes H hit rock bottom.
It is a longshot but my be the good that comes from an over bearing L who sees the whole process as a business deal and there are no feelings involved at all in a L's mind.
The week after H left after coming home for 8 days his L sent a letter to mine saying we were holding things up. excuse me...? I nicely told my L he came home and left again and well he has refused to talk about the settlement and please tell his L to shove it up her >>> well.. he said ok will put it in legal terms !! but will get the point across. I have not heard from mine or his L since For when I confronted H about the letter he said he got a copy of it by email and he did not tell her to send it.?? do I believe him.. not sure since I have learned how cutthroat these L are. I asked him what he wanted to do and he said leave it up to the L? (darn I sure hope he did not do that for all I know papers were filed and I don't even know. I have this nightmare of the L's working it out and I wake up to find I lost everything.) but that tells me that when you do that the L do as they feel necessary to move things along so they can get their money.
some L are very aggressive and see only the $ and there is no room for emotion. But you are paying him to represent you. He is employed by you and you are the one in control he needs to know that you are not pleased but do it from here on without emotion. Be very business like cut and dry to the point. He is not to do anything with out first consulting you this is your right.
So all you can do is try to smooth things over the best you can.
Be strong in front of your H don't fall apart let him know you did not do this and this was brought on by his actions and if he wants to resolve it you are willing to listen.
things will work out sending {hugs} H
m24 yrs h 50 me 47 s 21 s 17 left 5-30-06, and 12-4-06 still gone.............
