I have not posted on this site for the past couple months since things seemed to be progressing well with me an my W. I few weeks ago I found out she was in contact with OM that she was talking to when we were having problems. He gave her a ride home one night, which she lied about, but later told me the truth without me asking. She says she wants to make our R work, but I know she still has feelings for this OM. She went 2 months without contacting him before she recontacted him a few weeks ago. She may have not done anything physical, but I know it is not just an inocent freindship.

Well now I know she is checking things on the internet like astrology to see if she is a good match with him or myself. She also is texting him often. I am sick of pretending I know nothing and want to confront her for the truth. One good thing is that he did move out of state last week (too far for regular travel). So I think maybe it will die out anyway, but then again I don't like being a second option and being craped on. After saying all this I want to do what is right to make our R work.

Any advice would really be helpful since I have been seriously considering confronting her and may do it today. Thanks again.


Me - 34
W - 33
S - 5
D - 4
M - 14 years
Bomb 1 Dec 06
Bomb 2 Aug 07
Separated - Aug 07
WAW Renting own place - Dec 07