When I read that document from my L today, I was overwhelmed with frustration, and my first instinct was to get on this board again. I was right. I feel much calmer and see that maybe it isn't so catastrophic after all.
It's funny that you were posting about the "nudge for H to fall" when I was posting the same thing (at the same time) to Friendly. I think we think alike, LOL!
OK, Always, I will take a deep breath and hope that some good will come out of this. If this is what it takes to get the OW out of H's house, then I KNOW it is a good thing!