Chicki, I am so sorry you are going through this. I wish I had advice for you, but I'm sorry I don't know what to say. There are lots of unfavorable things I could say about your H, but I will keep them to myself.
I'm sure some of the other DB's will have words of wisdom for you. Just know that I'm thinking of you.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon