She's moving out and says that it's permanent

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I agree with Heywyre. Wait on shaving the beard. You can always do it later when you have time to think about it and maybe get in the sun to add some color (the skin will also be a bit more pale than the rest of your face).

Also, you'll have enough going on tomorrow night without adding that change. You asked about wine - go ahead with an inexpensive bottle as a nice gesture. I wouldn't do anything else fancy though.

As far as the finances, I definitely think she should pay for half the mortgage and any debt repayments. The rest of it, In My Opinion, is more up to you, your finances and your comfort level. I do not think you have to be a hard azz as much as be firm and strong and stand by what you decide. If you are sure you want to and can push to get all expenses shared equally, then go for it. Telling her to pay half the mortgage and debt repayment is easy because she will get half the equity and benefit also. The rest is more up to you.

Good Luck!!