My wife is falling in love with OM - help.

[Yoyowife]

Next,
How long has it been since all of this started? She may respond favorably, but could also respond unfavorably. Are you ready to end it if she does respond unfavorably or do you want to stand for your marriage?

I would not send the letter unless you are ready to possibly end your marriage. It's been many years since I received a letter from a boyfriend that told me the reason we should not have broken up. All it did was make me confirm that was what I wanted. He was pursuing me and nothing could change my mind, I just knew there was no way I would ever want him back. He stopped pursuing and it wasn't long before I was the pursuer. Of course I was very young and not married back then so the circumstances are different, but it's the only thing I have to relate it too.

I've been separated for 6 months and it has been the hardest thing I have ever been through, but I'm not ready to give in. So I'm going to stick with DBing until we reunite or I believe I have done everything I can do to save my marriage and it's time to move on.