I agree that I need to do what "I" want to do as far as finances. If she's tight, not my issue. That's how I'm planning to play it. Here's what I expect.
One of the things that we agreed to and she has since said, is that we'll remain faithful until things are final. She's still wearing her wedding ring.
I really have no interest in anyone else, but shaking her up some, might be a good idea. Some new clothes would do me good too.