Once you turn the situation over to a lawyer, you risk losing all control!
When I consulted my lawyer last year, it was only for advice about legal protection for my house and remainder of savings from H's out-of-control spending. Lawyer made me feel so bad about not wanting to file for divorce (b/c of all the damage that H had done), that I left his office in tears.
The lawyer also told me that filing for a legal separation is a waste of time b/c separations usually wind up in D anyway and it would cost me twice as much money.
After stalling for months while H continued his craziness and uncontrolled spending, I reluctantly told my L to file the paperwork for D. When H was served, he went ballastic.
We didn't talk for 5 months.
Things were gradually getting better between H and me since January of this year, that's when I thought he was hitting bottom.
Today, without any consultation with me, my L filed contempt charges against H with consequences of jail and liens on his house and property. This on the heels of his criminal trial last month when he was placed on probation for two years.
I don't know. I'm so upset that I probably shouldn't even be posting right now. My L should have talked to me before filing contempt charges. I told him as much on the phone today.
My friends say that H should have seen this coming. He was flaunting the judge's orders. That may be true, but it doesn't make me feel any better.
