I don't know what to do. I'm thinking about sending my wife this letter, do you think its a bad idea? I'm at the point now that if she says no, then I will have to move on, so maybe i have nothing to lose? What are you guys thoughts?
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I understand that you have been unhappy, that you hurt more than I can ever know. But I also know that you can remember. You can remember what we were like when we first started dating before we had kids, staying up talking until 5am, holding hands, nurturing each other, making love, and just dreaming. I can’t speak for you, but if you still feel anything, then please remember.
I don't think we are unique, and I know you don’t believe in soul-mates. So what’s next? I heard you tell me about how happy you are with him. Hearing that hurt, but it also reminded me of how we used to be. Unless you changed your mind about soul-mates, then you are like me and know that relationships need work - a lot of work. And when you stop working on the maintaining the connection, the connection that two people feel deteriorates. I know that our connection has deteriorated, and it's bad. But I also remember what it was like, and if I am going to work on any relationship, I want it to be ours.
If not then what are we saying to our girls. I want better for my girls. I don't want them to feel the pain that we have been through when they grow up. I don’t want to teach them that relationships are things you use and run from after neglecting them long enough. We have been through a lot together, things most couples never go through. We made it through them, and I believe with all my heart we can make it through this, we can try to heal what we once had.
Maybe we neglected each other for too long, and the distances between us to far. If so then maybe we should just end this and figure out how to be parents going forward. But if you have any feelings left, or if you can still remember, then please remember. We owe it to ourselves and the girls to try.
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please give me your thoughts? Any women who were once WAWs out there, as many peoples opinions I can get will help me decide on my next move.
