Heywyre I understand what you're saying, but much of that does require two people working on the relationship. Right now, that's not happening in my case.
I can improve myself and build my confidence back up and I'm working on that. If she cuts it off completely and doesn't want to date or anything else, then she won't be around to see it.
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We're getting together Friday night to talk. I think she's wanting to respond to my letter that I gave her and to talk about finances. She did say she'd order a pizza, but I really think it's a "last meal" kind of thing. However, it did supprise me that she was willing to have dinner with me, previously when I suggested it she wouldn't do it. May be I should get a bottle of wine?
I want to show her my confidence, be more like my old self. I plan to have a list prepared of financial items that I expect for her to help with. I really don't see anyway possible that she can pay rent and pay her share of all the expenses we have. It will more than exceed her monthly pay. However, that's not going to stop me from giving her the list and expecting that she pay her half. A lack of money probably won't change her mind.
One of the things I've come to realize is that she has a pattern of "running away" when she doesn't know what to do. From relationships, jobs, people, adoptions, etc... She's always talked about moving to Montanna. Why I don't know, but it's far away from here.
Should I point this out to her? She's just running away and not facing her problems. If she quits it won't solve the problem, it'll just happen again. Should I encourage her to continue with counseling somewhere?
I don't think that there's anything I can say that might change her mind, but I hate to miss the opportunity if there is one.
I know that no one here knows my wife, but I think that she probably has some part of her that still questions her decision, otherwise I think that she would have filed by now. I'm going to be confident and not beg her to stay. But does anyone have any suggestions of anything I can do or say that might change her mind or at least shake her up some?
When she and I talked on Wednesday, she was crying a lot. Very heavy at times. She hasn't done that recently, even when she left me at our last counseling session. I think that the closer it gets to moving date, the harder it's going to be for her. Also, it's getting toward "that time of the month" and she gets much more emotional.
