My wife spends a lot of time text messaging this guy when she is at home, she also makes little snide comments to me about "my bedroom, or my house" in a joking/sarcastic manner. THis doesn't bother me, but she does it around my 15year old stepdaughter (her daughter). We have talked to her about our sleeping in different rooms, but she is not aware of the full magnitude of the situation. I don't want her to be exposed to all of this, and to feel this is natural for relationships.
I feel like if she continues to do these things, I need to talk to my wife and tell her I feel its inappropriate and I'd like her to stop. But i don't want to come across as controlling or trying to avoid the facts of the situation. I just feel she needs to be more discreet with her affair, and until we are sure about what we are doing, making snide comments is just innapropriate around the kids.
