12_51 I hear you. When I first met my W, SHE did most of the hard core persuing. I also had no intention of getting married at that time. Also, NOTHING could ever knock me down. But things seemed to have changed. Where does our confidence go? I wish I knew! But I've learned one thing; analysis is paralysis. I try to stay out of my own head as much as possible anymore. As my friend tells me; "You're not allowed to get into your own head without an adult present, it's too scary to be in there by yourself!" (joke!). But we haven't lost anything. I can't speak for you, but I just got comfortable in my own s#*t, and now it's time for a change. I dunno, maybe this HAD to happen between my W and I, or somthing worse may have happened down the road. But you need to remember, 12_51, all of your GOOD qualities, and stop focusing on what's "wrong" with you!
