It just gets to me when I think about the past, how things were, and how they could have been had I not blown it.
PMA, Act as if and laugh as much as possible.
Tyler, Be careful with conclusions you come-up with. You will likely be "beating yourself up" over fiction--something you created in your mind that is not true, but sure seems like it. I think it's going to be awhile before you get some perspective on your situation--at least several months.
At this stage in the DB process, I don't think it's possible to be objective about who contributed what to the marital problems. Be clear about your goals, work like crazy at becoming excellent at DB, GAL, detachment, unconditional love, acceptance, and other life skills.
Accept the fuzziness of confusion for now. Things will become more clear later.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
