Well, I am sure there are so many ways of getting a little help here and a little help there for what you want to accomplish. And from what I have read of "Mama Gena" her advice is very selfish. And the sister goddess thing is weird in my opinion. Of course, so many people are very hedonistic anyway these days, so it's no surprise she has a following. And of course we all have free will to follow whatever we wish to follow.
I guess I prefer the more Biblically based way to treat a H. And I don't mean a staid, stale sex life, I mean a happy, active sex life, and a way of making your H KNOW he is the most important man in your life. I feel that God has told us how to treat our mates, and although not every one agrees with Biblical principle, putting it into practice after years of ignoring my H's needs is really helping us. And if your H, cj, likes for you to "dress up" for him, I don't think it's brazen to do so, I think you know what he can tolerate, and what may offend him.
Even though I sometimes feel as though my H isn't all the way there to saving our M, I still treat him in all ways I can as if our M IS on the way to lasting forever. He is number one in my life, well, second only to God, of course. He is the leader of our home, too. And, cj, getting your H's opinion on doing things around the house, and on other things are definitely getting you on the right track to making him feel like the leader of his home. That shows him you really do respect him.
More good luck to you, and if I have given you any poor advice, I am sorry.
